Because Love Isn't Enough

It didn't work...now what?  You thought you had this whole relationship thing figured out?  You cooked, you cleaned, you take care of the kids, you worked a full-time job, you went to school and you had sex with him 5 nights a week.  You thought you were doing a great job at this relationship thing.  Well that wasn't enough.  Sure you loved him so much that you didn't complain about doing all those things.  You loved him enough that you didn't say anything when it became too much for you.  You loved him so much that you forgot to love you. 

Women think that in order to be a good woman you have to be everything to everybody.  NEWSFLASH:  There is so much power in the word NO.  It's a small word that is so hard to say especially if you love someone.  You don't want anyone to talk about you. You don't want anyone to leave you. You don't want anyone to judge you.  Guess what they're already doing all those things.  When you are in a relationship with a man who is sitting around watching you do everything, he's not loving you.  You are giving more of yourself to him than he is to you, that's not love.  I'm not an expert on all relationships but I know something.  I know that a man doesn't love you just for all the things you do for him.  A real man loves you for how you make him feel.  I believe it's true that men and women want the same thing in relationships but we go about it in very different ways.  I'm not a man so I can't speak for them but I can speak for me.  I want someone who HELPS me feel good about myself, not someone who MAKES feel good about myself.  I want a man who is WILLING to support me, not who HAS to support me.  I want a man who SHOWS me that he loves me, not a man who only TELLS me that he loves me.  I want to give him everything that he needs from me, not feel an obligation.  I am in a very fulfilling relationship with a man who shows me how he feels about me everyday.  Yes we have had our ups and downs but we have grown through them both individually and collectively.  We are no longer afraid to make mistakes because we know that we have each other to help grow from them.  We don't have to do those immature things that people do in relationships.  We also don't have to talk about how good it is to everybody.  We keep our relationship to ourselves because to many people give you their opinion and disguises it as advice.  Yes we love each other but love isn't enough.  You need a lot more than love to sustain a happy and healthy relationship.  If you ask people that have been married for 50 years or more they will tell you that you need to like your partner and you need to be friends.  If you no longer like them than you are no longer in a relationship, you are going through the motions. 

Make sure you are growing from your relationship.  Make sure you are building something together.  Make sure you like each other.  Make sure you are friends.  Make sure you are committed to each other.  Make sure you are learning from each other.  Make sure you are listening to each other.  Make sure you trust each other.  Make sure you are praying for each other.  Do all these these things and more because love isn't enough.