I haven't talked about sex. It's been on my mind lately. I'm always trying to understand why parents have such a hard time talking to their kids about sex. I really don't have that problem. I like talking about sex because I like the education of sex. When I was younger I never had the "sex talk" with anyone. I learned about sex through reading novels. I must admit that is not the best way to learn about sex but it somehow worked for me. I definitely don't want my kids learning about sex that way nor from their friends. I was fortunate enough to understand the ups and downs of sex. Many kids today are not as fortunate to comprehend that. Kids are having sex much sooner and most times unprotected with multiple partners. In my opinion, it is because their parents never talked to them about sex. It's not enough to tell simply tell kids don't have sex. Face it, they are already having sex by the time you decide to tell them that. I think parents think that if they talk to their kids about sex then their kids are going to automatically want to experience sex. The truth is actually the complete opposite, in most cases. If you have the sex talk with your kids and tell them the truth about sex they are more likely to wait to have sex. They will not be ashamed to ask you questions if you have an open dialogue. For me it is not a challenge to talk about sex with my children because I have already opened the dialogue. Some may ask why are you having the sex talk with your 5 year old. The answer to that is simple...she was curious. Now hold up before you go saying that I am promoting sex to a 5 year old listen to this. Kids are curious, not about the act of sex, but about their bodies. If your child comes up to you and ask you where babies come from your answer should not be God alone. They are not asking you how we came to be, they are curious about where exactly did they come from. At this point the talk should be very simple. Babies come from sex. Don't lie but don't you don't have to give them play by play details. If you are confused about what to say maybe you shouldn't have babies in the first place.
So let's really talk about sex. If you want to know how sex is defined, look it up. My truth is...I enjoy sex. I enjoy everything from foreplay to intercourse. In my experience, the best sex I have ever has been the time when I have been in deep love with my partner. It's better when you are in love with someone because you are having sex more intimately. You are often more open with your partner the more in love the two of you are. I like having spontaneous sex but I love having sex that is planned. I mean think about it when you know that it is going to happen you should feel more excited. The more excited you feel the greater the sex is going to be. You alter your day so that nothing is stressful or tense. You cook, clean up and put the kids to bed early. You are prepared to fulfill fantasies and learn new positions. Everything about sex with someone you love is meaningful and more connected. You get so into it that nothing else is on your mind. You feel some kind of burning passion not unlike those sex novels that I read when I was a kid. You are so focused on the sex that you forget that your day was maybe not so good or that the bills are due and you really don't have enough money. None of that really matters when you are having that great sex. You know the kind of sex that R. Kelly sings about. The sex that makes you want to scream his name and mean it. That rough kind of sex that makes you want to pull your own hair. HAHA!!
I can talk about sex all day everyday...but I'd rather be having it.
Stay tuned!!!!
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