Help The Young Ones

I woke up this morning and my twitter timeline was all abuzz about a 14 year old girl giving oral sex near her school.  Sadly to say I was not shocked that this was going on but what I was shocked about was there was apparent video of the sexual act posted on this social networking site.  I couldn't believe that people actually wanted to see this.  In fact, I was disgusted.  I would never watch a sexually explicit video if it is presumed that either party is under the age of 18 (legal adult).  If you would, I just want to warn you that you would be watching child porn. 

I would like to address several things about this entire situation.  First, she is 14 years old and she is a child.  She obviously needs to seek counseling either from her parents or some kind of adult figure and not publicly humiliated.  The unfortunate thing is that she is not the only young person that is going through something like this.  This little girl, like so many others, is being sexually abused and for us to sit around and not speak up for her is shameful.  I don't know this little girl but we all know a young person who is having sex.  It's so easy for us to sit around and live our lives and not worry about the next generation.  If you would go to a school and ask the kids, of all ages, how many of them are or have been sexually active, the answer may or may not surprise you but it should wake you up.  We are living in a world that glorifies sex and instead of educating these kids, we are letting these kids educate themselves.  THEY ARE FAILING AND SO ARE WE.  I know some of you will say it's not our problem to talk to these kids but I would have to disagree with you.  If we don't tell them the hard truth then we will not only see a rise in STD cases and pregnancies but also in death among our teenagers.

It has to be said that I don't know this child's story but the fact that she is apparently performing sexual acts near her school makes me want to question her parents.  Where in the heck are the parents while your child is participating in such adult behavior?  I understand that you can't be in all places but this begins at home.  I'm a new parent and I worry about my kids even when I know exactly where they are and who they are with.  That will not stop for me because it will always be my responsibility to know where they are until they are adults and out of my home.  I am not naive to think the kids don't lie and sneak around.  I was a teenager and I had teenage friends.  I just knew that sex was not an option at that age.  Kissing, hugging and hand holding was fine but having sex was not on my radar because I had someone to talk to about sex.  Parents assume talking to their kids about sex will encourage them to have it.  I believe that it is opposite.  Your kids are learning about sex whether from you or someone but trust me they are learning.  They want to know what sex is all about and if you are not willing to tell them they will find another source.  I have never been afraid to talk about sex.  When I was 14, I read plenty of books about sex and I saw plenty of images about sex but I didn't have sex until I felt I was ready for the responsibility that sex will surely bring.  My friends and I talked about sex but we made our own decisions about when to have it.  I have never let anything my friends did influence my decision because I knew that I had parents to answer to.  I was, by no means, a perfect teenager.  I just didn't let pressures of my peers affect my choices. 

There is also that fact that the little girl is not the only person that was in the video.  There was a boy who was on the receiving end of the oral sex and a group of kids who was watching.  This is not okay.  Sadly, the young boy will probably be the "big man on campus" while the girl is perceived as a whore, slut or nasty.  They are equally responsible for what is wrong with our youth today.  The boy should be reprimanded just as much as the girl.  I mean he participated in the act and he needs to be talked to by an adult.  What's really going on when something like this is going on in front of a group of kids and not one of them speak up against it. 

The worst part about this whole thing is the fact that adults have viewed the video and actually blamed the girl.  They talked about what kind of shoes she was wearing.  They talked about the actual act that she performed.  They seem to have fail to realize that they have committed a serious crime.  Child pornography is a crime punishable by imprisonment and having to register as a sex offender.  Instead of watching a video, you should try and talk to a teenager about sex and what can happen if you put yourself in situations like this.  These are kids and although they need to be punished for bad behavior they need to seek counseling so that the behavior does not continue.  I would never watch a video if I even suspect the person performing a sexual act is underage.  Not only is it a crime, but it is disgusting. 

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